From an ACT perspective, we’re not in the business of helping clients be more willing to have anxiety just for the sake of it. It’s all in the service of helping them move toward lives worth living and what’s meaningful to them. So clarity about values early on underpins and strengthens acceptance, defusion, and committed action when you reach later stages.
There are many ways to get at values, including listening for what a client describes as important to her and wants more of in her life. We also listen for where pain, anxiety, and struggles emerge. Pain and values are two sides of the same coin. We hurt where we care.